August 12, 2008

"Martyr Mom" gets good advice from fellow blogger

Sometimes I consider myself a Martyr Mom. I sometimes disguise it also as being a control freak. A martyr Mom is always willing to saciface what she wants to make others in her family happy. I now know it's not really about making making everyone happy - it's just to stop them from complaining as much. As Dr Phil would ask: How's that workin' for ya? Not really Dr. - in fact not at all.

This is not healthy and really doesn't help anyone - it certainly doesn't help me.

Last week I started to read a terrific new series at Simple Mom entitled The 6 Keys to a Disorganized, Unproductive Day at Home. Tip #2 was Neglect Yourself This post had my name all ever it.

Too often I put myself at the at the end of the food change in the King household. I honestly think it makes me a better Mom. How messed up is that? I understand the concept of "if Momma ain't happy, nobody happy" but feeling guilty if I put myself before others. I find it hard to balance being a good Mom and being selfish.

I asked myself - how can I not neglect myself today. Here is what I came up with - get out of the house, alone. Get my hair cut! I went to a wonderful new Aveda spa that opened up the street. I can not tell how wonderful the smell of their products are. There is nothing like it! The massaged my head as she shampooed it. The whole thing took almost an hour and a half! It was pretty close to heaven on earth for me.

Too often I wait to cut my hair, buy new shoes, or go out for lunch with a friend. The rest of the family does these things. They will survive with out me, right?

Do you neglect yourself? How do you give yourself some "me" time?
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